A recent thread on FetLife got me thinking again about two labels that are bandied about in the BDSM community: Slave and Pet.
It got me thinking about how I define myself. When I was with Wednesdai, I described myself often as her pet. Her role was to look after me, keep me in line. My role was to do basically whatever she wanted of me. With Enigma it was much more a submissive role I’d say. I think with deka I was approaching the slave mindset, but again mostly I was a pet.
I very definitely identify myself as Miss Tara’s slave. I declared myself her slave the day she offered and I accepted her permanent collar. At that moment I made the last choice about my status I’ll ever make. I’ve willingly, gladly given up the right to decide anything about my relationship with Miss Tara. That’s a pretty good definition of slavery I think.
At the same time though, I very definitely feel cherished, protected, nurtured, owned by Miss. Those are definitely fitting with the label of “pet”. A pet is expected to be controlled, yet cherished. I’m definitely that.
Does it really matter what label applies? Maybe not, whether you call me slave or pet, I know this much: I am thoroughly owned by Miss Tara, and that’s all that really matters.
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