Not the same line as before, a different one and from a different direction. Perhaps a better title for this posting is: Where exactly are my limits?
On Thursday, after seeing my wife off to her appointment, I decided on a whim to work from home the rest of the afternoon. There was no particular reason for working from home, it just seemed like a good idea at the time. Miss Tara did not agree and she directed me to head back to the office if only so I was visibly there. My position at work is still somewhat tenuous and she felt that making a good showing was important, she also felt that I was more likely to be productive there than at home. As it turned out, I ended up having a really good design discussion with a couple of my co-workers and so there was actually significant benefit to being at the office.
I think Miss Tara may be feeling a bit concerned that she’s either over stepping, or overly concerned. The more I’ve thought about it, the more I’ve come to realise two things: First, even though things are improving at work, they aren’t where they need to be yet, and I need to continue to be more focused and disciplined in my work habits; Second, I am my Miss’s slave, and she always has my best interests at heart.
They say that all discipline is self-discipline. I’m not sure I completely agree with that, I think sometimes I need a swift kick in the ass too. It was a really good week at work for the first time in months, and on Thursday I think I was feeling complacent. Miss Tara did not allow that complacency to rule the day and as a result I had a better work day than I would have otherwise. That is a very very good thing.
As my Miss’s slave, it is my responsibility to make sure I am properly looking after her property. That’s something she picked up from her Master, and passed to me. I think it’s a marvelous way of putting it. Making absolutely sure that I’m doing well at work, and am seen to be doing well at work, is part of that. If she feels I am not doing an adequate job of caring for her property then she absolutely has the right to direct me to different actions. The fact was that she was right on Thursday, it was better for me to be at the office than working from home. I accomplished more, I was seen to accomplish more, it was all to the good. Had there been a compelling reason for working from home, I would have let my Miss know, and she would have decided whether that was reasonable. I completely trust her judgment, especially when you look at the track record.
Are there limits to that? Well, sort of. One of the classic distinctions between a submissive and a slave is: A submissive is allowed to say “No” and to have limits, a slave gives up that right. I trust my Miss completely. I know that if I have a concern, I am always free to bring it up, and that she will listen to my concern. I also know that she always, fully, fiercely, has my best interests at heart. Even more importantly, I know that she is Owner and I am slave. When she sees something, she decides, and I obey. She’s never steered me wrong, and that goes both for within SecondLife; in R;, with work; with caring for myself; with my relationship to my wife’s family; even in my relationship with my wife.
In this respect, she’s very much my coach. A coach with more authority than most, but the coaching model still works well. She knows me exceptionally well, and when she sees things that aren’t right, she directs me to correct them. Over time, I end up in a better place for myself, for my family, for my Miss.
Are there limits? Well, yes and no. There are areas my Miss knows I’m not comfortable going. Sexual activity in SL is a prime example. Do I trust absolutely that she won’t do things, or have me do things that will harm me, or others in any way? Without question or hesitation. Her authority and influence has certainly expanded over the last while, and to my mind that is a very good thing. It’s helping me be a better person. The care and attention with which she moves into a new area (like coaching me on work) demonstrates how careful she is in caring for her property. It’s a really nice feeling, knowing that she’s got my back.
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